Monday, September 5, 2011
Identity on the Internet - Meeting People and Relationships
In the early 2000's, I joined a website called Bolt which was basically a social networking site that was popular before Facebook and Myspace. Bolt allowed people to make a profile and find other people with similar interests. I started searching for people who were fans of my favorite band.
Before long, I had found a girl my age who also had the same favorite band as me. We started getting to know each other by sending messages back and forth. This went on for a long time, I'm talking years. We talked about everything, even things that we probably wouldn't talk about with anyone else.
Although we were honest with each other, we had never even seen a picture of each other. When you develop a relationship like this where you get to know someone so well without even knowing what they look like, you start to create a picture in your head about what they look like. Naturally, the picture you come up with is ideal and probably not what the other person actually looks like.
So one day years into our relationship we decide we were going to send each other a picture of what we looked like. Curiosity got the best of us. So we did this and I think we were both kind of surprised. This person who we knew so well looked different that our imagined images in our heads. This kind of made things a little weird, but we still continued to talk.
After some years went by, we started communicating less and less until it became very rare and we stop talking altogether. I think we both just kind of moved on to other things.
It was a good experience to have that relationship. I still have her contact information and maybe one day we will get back in touch.